I’m writing this at the point of sheer Frustration and it may end up all ranty but I’m needing to rant.
Hopefully someone somewhere will get what I’m saying. I’m not a neuro typical person, neither is my son but my daughter is. Therefore , parenting can be hard, harder than normal.
What works with my daughter won’t work with him , you have to think outside the box, walk on eggshell, try and avoid the confrontation s , the meltdowns , the sheer and utter devastation psychically and emotionally on a daily basis.
Things have got so bad recently I have to accept professional help , I ve had to get the school involved because after 8 years of doing it alone , it just became all too much.
And this was hard for me… to expose myself and my child in such a vulnerable way… to ask for help when all I ever learnt is it ll be refused . To let people in my home when I don’t even let my parents through my own front door.
So I’ve done this, I’ve done it because I love my son , because I want to help him.
But all I seem to get from everyone is the lack of understanding that he isn’t neurotypical, they allude to my parenting , they suggest things that yes would work if he didn’t have emotional , psychological and pyschical disabilities – they don’t understand that I’m agreeing with them in concept but I know it won’t work and to be honest the consequences of trying would be catastrophic. This is not me being difficult. I’m being honest.
I feel undermined, I feel like I’m being called into question when actually I have proof in the shape of a 12 year old daughter this isn’t my parenting that is the problem. It isn’t like i havnt tried the same techniques with both.
I had to remind them today of this, I got upset through the sheer frustration of talking but never being listened to.
All I’m asking is that I have some support to do it the way I know will work, because I know I can’t do it alone anymore, I broke before Xmas but I need to be strong for my boy but I need to be believed in.